Blogging with Dr. Susan

 

Blogging with Dr. Susan

Learning Differences in Autistic Children

 

Hints for parents and children, kids and their friends: how to understand learning differences including autistic-like patterns of thinking, talking, writing and reading, behaving and having fun…

  1. Increase vocabulary by building his own library and vocabulary word bank of high interest words.
  2. Increase oral reading skills (to self privately) using books that are self selected (of his interest) his likes/dislikes are important Zach Bell/ Pokémon/One Piece/Battleship
  3. Improve selection of reading materials to include comics, sign language or any other print of his choice using adult assistance
  4. Identify and Understand idioms, common expressions, slang, and corrected slang
  5. Use a grammar disk to listen to proper word usage
  6. Write more clearly examples of how nouns and adjectives agree
  7. Use possessives, questions and statements to answer questions
  8. Write common sentences that form a paragraph about basic ideas that he originates in his mind
  9. Help receive adult tutoring and classroom assistance to help him release his ideas aloud prior to writing use drawing in addition to writing

 



Good Manners Can Lead to Good Self-Esteem

 

Teaching children good manners is essential to building self-esteem.

Here are some ideas you can use:

Being kind to others.  Show with example.

Have your children write thank you notes after every birthday and holiday.  Write your child a thank you note and see how they react to it. It’s a warm feeling to be recognized by someone, no matter how small the gift.

Things that come from the heart mean so much. When you make a batch of cookies, send some home with your kids friends or anyone who walks through your door. Always use the word please when asking your child to do something and thanking them when they are done. If your children see you doing these things, it becomes second nature to them. Use positive reinforcements by praising your child when they do say please and thank you. 

Respecting adults by using Mrs. and Mr. in front of their names, unless asked to be called by first names. Eye contact is an important thing for children to be taught as well as a firm handshake. 

Expose your child to empathy.  When someone your child knows is picked on, raise your child’s awareness on what it feels like to be laughed at or pointed at.  How would they feel if it were them.

Remind your children they need to have good listening skills.  They need to wait until the person speaking is done before speaking. This is one skill that can help you your whole life long.

A healthy self-esteem will help your children be more successful as adults. To encourage self-esteem in youngsters you should appreciate your child. Thank your children when they have done what you asked. Treat your children with respect.  They want to be treated like an intelligent human being. They want to feel valued. Give them jobs to do and compliment them on a job well done. 

Make sure your children feel loved.  Unconditional love is a gift that never ends…



Sibling Rivalry

 

Your kids are constantly bickering, it’s increasing in its intensity, you are worried it may come to physical blows…..Well stop right there and take a stand.  It’s normal for kids of different ages to become jealous over their siblings but if it is starting to stress your family out it’s time to make a change. I’ve come up with some ideas you can try:

  1. You can set up an area where the kids can air their grievances.  Make a time each night for them to get it out.  You’ll be surprised how little they actually do have to fight over. 
  2. Have each child switch jobs for a week and see how the other child does.  It will give them a different perspective.
  3. Remember they way you and our spouse resolve issues is a role model for your children.  Use kind words and respect your partner.
  4. Never compare your children to each other.
  5. Let children settle their own disputes if possible.
  6. Identify with your children’s anger.  Understanding their frustration.
  7. Try not to take sides.
  8. Separate the children if it becomes violent.

Teaching your children to get along with each other sets them up for better relationships later in life. Susan says have family meetings and please and thank you are only a drop in the bucket.  You can take or leave my advice but it’s all about making children take responsibility for their actions and avoid rescuing children and work as a tem a responsible team. Always remember no, hitting, no yelling just move away.

Thanks Dr. Susan