Blogging with Dr. Susan

 

Blogging with Dr. Susan

Teach kindness among neighbors, among friends, among kids.....

 

          

            Here are a few obvious facts about U.S. families, jobs, money and time!  The economy is not recovering as expected ....terrible news for modest career and low income families, all families in need.  Do we really expect families to carry on, take the pain of foreclosure, tiny budgets, sickness, emotional depression and illness?

            How do most families suffer or acclimate through this time of skimpy resources?  They are playing a life struggle waiting game that deserves our support, kindness and help----all of them need “things” like food and funds, clothes and heat.  Let’s use this time to teach our kids kindness! 

            This time is an opportunity to teach a lesson in life if we reach out and offer families help so they need not feel inadequate and self-loathing.  Be a good example to your kids with kindness, thoughtfulness and give them ways to help others! Teach toddlers as well as teens to be kind and generous!   The mere verbalizing of showing kindness leads to a passionate willingness to give whatever is needed. Kids will react that way from watching parents! 

            Volunteer with your kids and teens through a church (you don’t have to go to a church to give to a church!)  food or clothes and if you hear about anyone who is on the streets and not being helped by an agency, a family, or neighborhood friends, take offerings, without delay. Pare down clothes and games and extras kids do not need or want, give items away with kindness and show the pleasure that comes from giving rather than getting....get going!  

            There is no time better spent by a family than jsut playing a game or watching a movie together.  Play is good!  Visiting a down-and-out friend or a nursing facility is good.  It is also time to appreciate the place where you live if you are lucky enough to have one!              Get going!  Round up clothes and games, go to Good Will, shelters, Red Cross donation centers, volunteer with your kids at the food bank for half a day, take the bus, not the car, talk to each other and feel good about setting a great example! 

            Times will change; will your children change attitudes and behavior?   What will they remember of these days fof economic struggle for so many?   Will your children be more tolerant and less aggressive?  Will they be kinder and gentler teens and adults? Will they give support to family’s living in the streets, sleeping in cars with their children at their feet!?  Will you join others in teaching kindness?  Thanks

Dr. Susan Turben



Wouldn’t you like to know how your child learns to think during infancy?

 

Do you remember when or how you started to think?

This brief rendition of intentional thought and the emergence of language gives parents an inside peek at sensory activity in the womb, complete with actions and reactions that indicate how thinking and learning is a process that evolves normally to produce thought and language in the brains minds of newborns, infants and later stages! 

Infant bodies and brains are connected to sensory systems designed as cells to build and develop in every tiny part of the body and brain ….from the top of the head to the bottom of feet, from fingers to toes to brain cells, millions of them, galore! 

Each baby’s complexity of cells knows what to do, where to go, in just the right numbers, to develop a personal (unique) sensory system. Each baby comes born with our own traits and personality, talents and skills, and varying abilities to communicate!  We have our own bones, eyelashes, skin and organs.

Pre-born infants are literally producing their own development as they progress through stages of growth relentlessly!   No wonder infants make a lot of noise when they have to leave the womb.  Now you know how babies think!    It is not hard to read a child’s mind if you are impressed at how early growth includes newborn sounds, millions of crying and shrieking styles, undiagnosable noises (even hiccups in the womb), immediate newborn eye contact, smiling, staring, looking, listening, closing eyes, opening them, jerking and shuttering, rolling and defecating. 

Instant facial expressions, smiling, cooing and crying.  Parents need to know crying is just as important as any other type of communication as much as early sensory experiences are the way babies think, so let your infant or young child “experience” everything. Don’t say “don’t,” say “try this instead.” Use substitutes and distractions as your only discipline, in addition to please and thank you. Why? Because they are words that direct an infant or toddler to give you the behavior you want. Here’s how babies think.

They think with all the senses:

Seeing and looking
Hearing and listening
touching and handling
Smelling and tasting

By realizing how babies think you can enhance your relationship with your child.



The Truth About Bullying

 

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This is the truth about cyber bullying, this is time to talk to parents and confront the uneasy truth about adult, parental, familial and useful responsibility for child behavior and on line habits!  Believe me, it is your parental duty as a parent to stop the insanity of children hurting children, teens hurting teens, adults thinking cyber-shots are funny, cute or clever. …Parents and caring adults are in charge…not children, not teens, not aunt Mary, parents are in charge …… parents are the solution and the problem, and need to take a stand, taking simple steps and interfere in the lives your children …because if you don’t, you are contributing to the rage expressed on line by kids and youth.  You say nothing, you are as guilty as they are! The words and deeds out or your mouths are the words and deeds in printed smack on the warheads of those children you nurture.

If you see even one word or violent verbal expression created by your child or youth,  then you are hereby notified that  you as a family have failed your responsibility and you may want to read Jim Barbarino and Claire Bedard’s book, Parents’ Under Siege!  If you are a mother or father or caring adult or whether or not you are a parent at all, you are responsible for your kids,  their actions and especially how they treat other people.  You steer the ship, so plan for the families future and do it early in the lives of your offspring …

Start at the latest around the ages of  three or four,  that’s right three or four and have a family meeting!  Treat your kids as mini-grownups and let them tell you what they think.   Establish with your children  your parental house rules.   Be sure to include words like helping, not doing chores, and cooperating by  being a family that looks out for each other! 

The earlier this simple family meeting step is accomplished the better chance you have that that your kids make it to adult hood as decent and civil people …

To stop cyber-antics , parents or family members older and more experienced, must become...... family rule-makers,  organizers,  ritual-makers, personal examples of decent and kind behavior.  Oh, you don't think kids notice?  Too busy with their own lives?  Not at all!  They watch and talk behind your back and downgrade parental leadership, but what they see is what they do!   What kids see every day and since sponges are a good example of a teen’s brain, you are on stage 24-7 in the early years of childhood, middle childhood, early adulthood or teenage years.

Anybody who gets to be fifteen and can’t tell me the house rules, the personalities of family members, the way they function as a  household, I know am in for long-term difficult learning process ….Any responsible adult-parent that spends less than an hour every day in the sight or  proximity of their kids doesn’t know what is going on and needs to find out. 

Hire a body guard if you feel you are too busy to take care of your own kids, any age, and hope to heaven that person has ideas and values worth dying for!  What do you think the army,  navy, air force or marines have camps for?  To see how each and every young adult has been raised..that’s what!  When recruits  show up, they have to find out fast the personalities and temperaments,  home-based skills they are bringing to the military.  All they have to do is observe the soldier’s reaction to taking orders to know who his equipped to listen and take orders and who isn’t.   Loud-mMore to finish but this is a start…what does it need? 

An audio from Dr. Susan's Friend of the Family Radio Show on bullying. Sticks-and-Stones-Can-Break-Your-Bones-But-Bullying-Always-Hurts-You---Butch-Losey

More articles on bullying below:

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