Blogging with Dr. Susan

 

Blogging with Dr. Susan

Follow Susan through Hong Kong, Macau, Zhuhai, Shanghai, Suzhou and Beijing

 

I assume blog readers are child-minders, child-providers and parental child-raisers. This blog topic is also on the minds of researchers who study parenting trends! Contemporary families are cruising so fast with so much pace and busy-ness that the norm is negatively affecting children and youth from infants in child care to teenagers in action! Here.s what I learned from Jim Garbarino, Mel Levine, Robert Brooks, Dr. James Comer, to name prestigious researchers!

Fast.paced adaptable, high stress family life is in style. Families wake up to school, jobs, car rides, buses and snacks as if each day is a instantaneous .fresh start.. Families live according to a daily schedule that changes every day, that is somewhat the same but often different and .new.. Children react physically and emotionally to routine inconsistency and stress, shifting from high energy to sleepy states, compliance to defiance, kindness to meanness and adopting the same merry-go-round lifestyle for themselves...

Researchers find there is an upside and some hope in this decade of a fast-paced life! If families take five minutes a day to start a quick, but attentive conversation about each day.s activities and follow up with contact by cell phone or notes, problems loom small less often. Kids quickly feel included, are more helpful at home, and have higher expectations about cooperation day to day!

Researcher, Dr. Robert Brooks, concerned with a .hot topic.: .resiliency in children,. recently told an audience in Chagrin Falls, Ohio, that mothers and dads need to modify their own behavior to model resiliency as a skill for their young children on a daily basis. As he describes it, young children, even 18 month-olds, are more than ready to learn adaptation and cooperation as well as compliance with adult requests and commands.

On the negative side, Dr. Brooks insists, if parents do not help children consistently, they do not naturally .use. their resilient and resourceful abilities and can become .behavior problems. in school and at home, ignoring parents or teachers and refusing to follow directions and family rules! What is ultimately most dangerous for children who do not have consistent parents and general family rules is that they acquire social behaviors such as empathy, kindness or compassion toward others much later in life when it can become a problem forming relationships.

According to my research (Turben, 1998) studying kindergarten age children who were observed initially at 18-36 months of age, personality traits were consistent after five years. This supports the notion that toddlers who were more resilient and cooperative maintained those skills and behaviors five years later.

T.Berry Brazelton, pediatrician and advocate of the capacity of infants, also notes that at the moment of birth, parents literally fall in love with their infants, adding that the immediacy of the sensation of love becomes the basis of social and intellectual abilities in infancy. Falling in love extends to loving care, allowing parents to teach their babies social skills and values and ways of living.

Many are surprised by the competency of infants and the resiliency they possess. If you are one of those, let us know how smart your child is, and how he or she got that way! Dr. Susan



Iím Here in Russia

Just in! Susan’s latest blog from a hotel in the City Center of St.Petersburg, Russia.  She begins training families, infants, toddlers, and children and youth with handicaps … now

Hi and what do you think?  The weather is perfect.  April in Russia, about the same as the weather in Cleveland Ohio, where I departed, with my toys and games in my duffle bag,  not much room for anything more!  I started coming here in 2004 ….nine trips ago, I am psyched to get to be doing what I love to do….playing with kids and demonstrating for parents exercises, songs and games activities and play therapies .

Write me on fan list on Facebook ….if you are new to the site, sign on as a fan and keep up with my progress through the week. Back in Cleveland I wrote short profiles on my laptop for each child and then…..we translate back to the parents through Tatyana, friend and godsend… interrupter.

I will observe then get busy demonstrating with the children what parents need to do!  good information, best practices and recent it is like a big puzzle, as I get my toys that I use as teaching tools, arrive at the school or at a home, and take my position on the floor or in a home on a couch and others ways to help their child or children develop skills, recover their abilities to the greatest extend they can.

My work is all about developing skills and unleashing potential and I look forward to it as always!

The bad news world wide

Most of this world’s families do not get the help they want on raising kids.   Susan does as much as she can for as long as she can for as many families as possible!

Susan uses world-wide research and practical experience to reach families whose children have disabilities ranging from cortical visual, cerebral and sensory deficits, autism, apraxia, disorders such as speech delay, mutism, cerebral palsy, dysplasia, developmental delay, mental retardation, even undiagnosed disabilities and a variety of relationship and social conduct disorders.



my questions about China, treatment of families and more

Please go to my website for the full version of questions I will be asking of  Chinese business leaders, factory workers, families and children while on an immersion trip coming up this week. Basically I want to know about the treatment of girls and  women and the factory conditions and rural versus city rules for those who are working in conditions that are restricted to long absences away from family, with long separations, long hours.  I want to know about the treatment of girls and their eduction and then the big question….put out there by Economist Mag on their  front page,” What happened to 1 million baby girls in China?”   Wish me luck after the volcanic ash dumped on me. I am a bit more reserved about all this travel but I am excited too

Dr. Susan Turben



China

China is amazingly huge!  “big” is not a word that describes the incredible breath and depth of the country.  Can you picture the Great Wall of China swarming with  80 thousand people on the day we visited?  many thousands more  in front of behind in  other locations along the wall which is  6,000 miles long……vistas of gret beauty and stone steps that require some downward gazing!  uphill and downhill, the walk was a walk,  not a climb!   It was impossible to get space to really hike or climb so we went with the flow ….a truly a breath-taking experience in every way…from babies in arms, to very  elderly and very young, carrying umbrellas against the sun,  carrying water and food, all of us  thrilled  to see the views from the many staging areas along the way.

Our access point was Beijing , majestic views to the north and so many  swarming people who, like us,  had to take a tram up the mountainous first elevations  to be sure we would even be able to  walk together, seven of us,  and savour the fact we were on the Great wall of China, seeing a masterpiece of  ancient laborious work ,  realizing the stones we stepped on and the walls we leaned against have been there for practical purposes, forever!   pictures to come along behind the brief blog….



Susanís Latest Trip to Russia April 2010

Just in! Read Susan’s latest blog from a hotel in the City Center of St.Petersburg, Russia.  She is just a day away from beginning her training visits to families, infants, toddlers, and children and youth with handicaps …

Susan blogs as follows:

Hi and what do you think?  The weather is perfect. Well it is perfect for April in Russia, about the same as the weather in Cleveland Ohio, from where I departed, toys and games and handouts in my dufflebag, with not much room for anything more!  I started coming here in 2004 ….nine trips ago, and I am psyched to get to work doing what I love to do….play with kids, train and demonstrate activities that help kids achieve their potential through exercise, activity and play.

The parents watch the teachers as they join me to try out the exercises.  All that starts Monday so write me on Facebook and wish me well.  Sign on as a fan and keep up with my progress through the week.

I plan carefully to be back in Cleveland to write a short profile for each child from my laptop and then to translate back to the parents through Tatyana, my loyal interrupter and constant companion….

I play and she talks!  I also talk to the children in Russian…really!

Observation is my most important skill and those observations are watched carefully by grand mammas, papas and relatives….my toys are a big hit!   I use them during floor play as teaching tools……want to hear (clysheetsza) more about what I do?  Susan says,” stay tuned!” then get busy demonstrating with the children what parents need to do!  good information, best practices and recent it is like a big puzzle, as I get my Stay tuned.

Susan Says….

Most of this world’s families do not get the help they want on raising kids.   Susan does as much as she can for as long as she can for as many families as possible!

Susan uses world-wide research and practical experience to reach families whose children have disabilities ranging from cortical visual, cerebral and sensory deficits, autism, apraxia, disorders such as speech delay, mutism, cerebral palsy, dysplasia, developmental delay, mental retardation, even undiagnosed disabilities and a variety of relationship and social conduct disorders.