Teenagers: Friends and Taking Steps to Maturity in the Years Between 12 and 18!

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Characteristics of  young  teens :  Teens go to extremes, voice emotions and threats, intimidate and tease, form cliques,  involve themselves mocking and bullying for periods of time that lead to emotional instability, violent behavior, and a “know-it-all” attitude.

Characteristics  of young teens: Teens form physical and emotional habits that may or may not seem attractive or conducive to socially accepted mannerisms such as: nail biting, teasing and fighting, hiding and stealing, lying, and daydreaming.

Maturing  Behavior:  Maturing teens have heightened emotional interests in philosophical, ethical, and religious problems:  Their belief system and ideas are based on home and school observation and fairness.  Battles are predominant when one set of parents allow what another set of parents does not allow. 

Maturing Behavior:  Maturing teens need access to magazines, newspapers, computers, cell phones, free time and socializing, as well as parents who track teen activities during daytime and evening hours.  Teen academic studies need to incorporate hard and paper books, music and math devices, teacher-student rapport and activities that involve field visits, physical excursion, novel local resources and travel sites, conversations and shared experiences with families, peers, and close friends.

Characteristics of  young teens:Teens respond well to group responsibility and group participation.  Groups may form cliques.

Characteristics of young teens: Teens make strong identifications with an admired adult, along with a high interest in physical attractiveness

Characteristics of Young Teens:  Teens are focused on acceptance among social groups; Young Teens’ fear of ridicule and being unpopular needs to be acknowledged by family members.  Parents need to say, “I understand.”  Self-pity and over sensitiveness are common young teen issues and should be treated with adult respect.  Adults need to be humorous listeners. Teens learn trust through compromise and firmly set realistic home and school rules.  Communication with young teens can be successful in the safety of home where mistakes are tolerated and consequences are swift and assured. 

Maturing teens are learning self assurance, developing acceptance modes for school and home, bringing home academic skills, sharing, communicating and reinforcing their own behavior mature.   Mature teens accept and reinforce their own rules and engage in activates such as cooking and sharing jobs at home. 

Characteristics of young teens:  Young teens resist and push back against family rules and because of this, parents need to set the rules and stick to them. Young teens need parents who establish guides for behavior that provide privileges for cooperative and caring behavior …and denies them when there is no responsible evidence that young teens are able to comply with parental demands. 

Characteristics of young teens:   Young teens feel defensive and act out with arguments, tantrums, negative language, voicing irritation, anger and frustration, rather than, asking for help.   Young teens giggle and shout anytime, anywhere … such as watching TV, at mealtime, in the car, at family events.

Maturing teens are avid supervisors of other children and adults, communicating with flair and showing excitement about opportunities and engaged in conversation and personal communication.   Communication skills are learned during this later teenage period of maturing and developing a personal style. 

Characteristics of young teens:  Young teens are self-centered and ambivalent; lacking self esteem they do not listen or feel the need to work out problems through talking.  Young teens need to repeat what is said, and only then will teens hear and listen.   Love and kindness are parental responses necessary for young teens that are difficult and inconsiderate, lacking kindness to others. It is always an adult option to walk away and quietly remark that you choose to wait until the young teen is cooperative.

Maturing teens begin to take pride in their appearance and in the lives of family members.  In home and school settings, mature teens enjoy problem-solving and in this environment, develop self control.   Regardless, adults need to be always in charge, deciding curfews, approving friends, and rejecting those not appropriate.

Ask Dr. Susan